No one enters into marriage and intentionally breaks the relationship thereafter. Splitting up is still a decision of two individuals who used to love and care for each other as if they were not aware of the ill upshot after years of togetherness and shared pleasures. Though it is a rapidly increasing condition among wedded couples especially in the Western area where it is prevalent, people who are involved are not easily accustomed to the breakup. It is not easy to live differently from the way you used to live, and it is so much painful to think of the beautiful connection which later on turned out morbid and futile. It must be so hard to live differently from the life you once vowed to live to for the rest of your life with someone who once mattered the whole world to you. This situation gradually reveals a lot of emotions including anger, anxiety, despair, worry, fear and the loss of confidence.
During a divorce, it is not only the estranged couples who suffer from this atrocious situation. The children are actually the ones who are more stressed and vehemently damaged by this. This is a sad and confusing part wherein they are likely to feel uncertain, uneasy and angry. But no matter what this process brings, this should and must be dealt well with all due acceptance. While the procedure is ongoing, the parents take the biggest responsibility to let their children understand and accept this unexpected happening in their lives. They should exert full effort to help the kids cope with divorce by reassuring them their needs and providing them stability.
It is normal for kids going through their parents’ divorce to get puzzled and be physically rebellious at some point. But this should never stop the parents to take utmost control of them and prioritize them more than their yearning for their own freedom or their quest for another love. It is understandable that this shall bring mixed emotions which include anxiety, distress and emotional troubles, that is why the parents should at least let the children speak their minds and in the long run explain to them that there are just things that do not last and are not meant to be. It is very important for the presence of the parents’ care, support and supervision to be felt by the children so as not to cause them so much hurt and grief. These feelings shall pass and will soon subside no matter how long it takes. All you need is patience and kindness to your own self so you won’t find yourself messing up again with what was already done in the past.